With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, there’s no better time to indulge in and take care of the most important person in your life: you. One of the most rewarding ways of loving and nurturing your mind and your body is by practicing self-care. Admittedly, finding time for quality self-care time can be pretty difficult for those of us in school, working full-time jobs, with children—as we all know, the possibilities for stress are endless, and it is incredibly easy to let self-care fall by the wayside when we have so much else going on. However, carving out even a few minutes a day for uninterrupted you time is extremely relaxing and can help you regroup and recharge.
Self-care, and especially self-love, is still a pretty radical idea in our culture. Women who unashamedly love their bodies, their minds, and their whole selves are shamed for being vain or self-absorbed. It’s hard to find the time to devote to truly getting to know yourself and loving the self you discover, and the stigma attached to loving yourself without limits may make self-care even more difficult. Here at Unbound, we say to hell with all of that. This month, we’re challenging you to engage in radical self-love that makes you feel good—and getting in touch with your sexuality is a fantastic way to practice self-care.
Whether you’re seeing someone or going solo, finding intimacy with yourself is unbelievably rewarding. Discovering your body, or spending time nurturing it if you’ve already spent ample time exploring it, is beneficial for a number of reasons. First, and most importantly, you’re spending time loving yourself! Self-care can include a plethora of different things, and those will be different for every person, but loving yourself is integral to all of them. Whether you’re taking yourself out for coffee, reading a book, spending quality time alone to reflect, or rediscovering your body in bed, you’re taking special care of your body and mind—which is definitely a huge part of loving yourself. Furthermore, it’s proven that orgasms are good for your health, and what could be better for self-care than looking after your health? Finally, being control of your own pleasure is deeply empowering. Knowing where your next orgasm is coming from, and knowing that you’re in control of that, feels really good.
So, this month (and every month from now on), truly spend some quality time with yourself. While it’s super easy to fall into a routine of getting off quickly with your favorite toy, try something else this month. Instead of taking out your vibrator for a quickie (which is still wonderful, don’t get me wrong!), actually romance your body and your mind. Even if you’re seasoned in solo sex, take your time pleasuring yourself—you may discover new things about your body you never knew before.
Unattached this Valentine’s Day? Looking for new ways to make you feel good? Try our first-ever solo box!
Sarah Hogg is a queer feminist activist in her final year at James Madison University in Harrisonburg, Virginia. She's most passionate about reproductive justice, healthy sexuality, and body positivity. Feel free to get in touch with her @SarahLovely!