"The clitoris is the center of female pleasure.” - Alfred Kinsey
Though utterly integral to female sexual satisfaction (by most estimates less than 30 percent of women are able to achieve orgasm from vaginal penetration alone), the clitoris has been ignored, deeply misunderstood or outright maligned through much of history. Hell, it wasn’t until SEVEN YEARS AGO that, thanks to the work of a pair of French research physicians (vive la France!) that we had a fully articulated picture of what the clitoris even looked like in 3D space and how it reacted to stimulation.
Art by: Victoria Liu
We’ll save our rant re: the abysmal state of sex education in the US (and how less nothing has been done to disseminate this information) for another article- or you could just watch John Oliver’s stupendous takedown. We know it's too tall an order for this humble blog to get everyone in America read in but while we have the privilege of *your* attention anyway allow us to school you in how to get "cliterate".
The glans is connected to the body of the wishbone-shaped internal clitoris, which is made up of two arms (corpora cavernosa) that swell with blood and become erect around the vagina during arousal. Many scientists believe that for this reason many vaginal orgasms may be in part attributable to this indirect clitoral stimulation.
- The clit can be stimulated by touch/pressure/rubbing, application of a vibration, licking/sucking, or through the application of sensation-enhancing gels. The most important thing to remember is that, given that every woman is working with a slightly different model, you should take time to figure out what is most pleasurable for her
- For some women, direct stimulation of the clit can cross the line from pleasurable to overwhelming or even unpleasant pretty quickly. Before diving in to touching or licking or vibe-ing the clit directly, try indirectly stimulating it by touching the surrounding area (e.g. pressing down on the mons, or fleshy portion on the pubic bone above the clit, or try running your fingers on either side of the clitoral hood without yet delving inside)
- When tapping, stroking or rubbing the clit with your fingers try out a variety of pressures and speeds. Some women like a lighter touch while others prefer something more blunt
- When it comes to stimulation with a vibration, some women prefer targeted a targeted buzz while others prefer a more diffuse, rumbly sensation
- During sex there are also several positions that can position you better for clitoral stimulation, including doggy style (which allows for you or your partner to reach around and stimulate your clitoris) or you on top (where you have control over touching yourself) and there are also a host of fantastic clitoral vibrators on the market that can be used without impeding intercourse (we love the We Vibe and the Eva)